Here's another one for the ladies... Men, one of these days I'll try to send a message just for you, feel free to read this one. When it says Ladies, it's because I worry more about my girls, but boys aren't any better off sometimes...

I was just watching the Perfect Man this afternoon. If you haven't seen it, I'd say it was a pretty good movie, if you have seen it or have heard of it... don't judge me for my movie taste ;)

Brief rundown, Mom has problems, her solution is to run away. This family, Single mom with 2 daughters, has been to many different towns, reason??? Mom is desperate, finds a jerk, dates a jerk, when things don't work out because she does still have morals and self respect, they move. Holly, (the eldest child @ about 17), gets tired of moving so much she finally does something. She creates for her mother "The Perfect Man" and bases him off the uncle of her new friend who is a genius when it comes to women. I'm sure you can figure out by now, things eventually blow up, mom gets upset, yadda yadda yadda, typical movie plot.

Now here's my point to all this. When Holly tells her mom what happened she has a speech I wish all girls could hear, and understand. 

Holly Hamilton: You never listen to anything I want. 
Jean Hamilton: All right, fine. What do you want? 
Holly Hamilton: I want a mom who sees in herself what Zoe and I see everyday. That's talented and pretty and funny, and cooks great and dances great, and doesn't need a man to be those things. Okay, so maybe the perfect man wasn't real. But the perfect you is. 

Ladies, I don't care what your worried about. Whether age like Single Mother of 2 Jean, or whether your insecure about your body, your personality, whether your simply afraid of not being accepted or never being loved. Don't settle. This doesn't mean wait for Prince Charming to come riding up on a White Horse, honey... The Perfect Man, does not truly exist. But that being said, There is a perfect man for every perfect woman. If you want to find your perfect man, your going to have to be sure you know the perfect woman first. Perfect doesn't mean flawless. Perfect isn't a mold created in heaven that got battered as you fell to the earth. Perfect means smiles, laughter, love, personality, interests, likes, flaws, it means being you and not caring what the world thinks. When you find the real you. Thats when you can feel confident in finding a real Man. Because once you can truly respect you, and be willing to wait for whatever God's got planned, thats when you can find a man to truly respect you, and be willing to go where God plans.

On the flip side...
Don't keep people out, Some of us don't know how to open up and let anyone get close, I don't know if it's because we haven't figured out how to let go of the unrealistic Perfect Man, or if it's because we lack confidence in our ability to find our perfect man. Take a chance once in a while. Don't be afraid to open up and let people get close. If things get serious and you get scared, take it from me. Let him know. Tell him your starting to get scared and you need him to help you through the fear. If things get serious but you realize he's not the man for you, tell him. If you can't figure out which is the problem, talk to your friends, let them know your freaking out and you don't know why. If they like him and you completely respect their opinion, consider it fear and continue on. Don't back out just because your afraid.