Hey, it's me again. 
You ever had one of those weekends that was like... Oh My Goodness I'm so glad I don't have to deal with all that junk anymore... I did.

I'm a dean, and while we were cleaning the deans were talking... Why is it that girls always feel such a need to be loved by the first boy that comes along???
So often my dorm girls fall for someone who... honestly... I know they can do so much better, but... he smiled at her and she was hooked... or the parents and everyone disapproves and they can't see the horrible relationship they've gotten stuck in... Sometimes I wish I could sit them down, smack 'em across the head and tell them to see him for what he is, not for his smile... But you can't. I've seen friends get into abusive relationships, both Physically and Mentally, I see girls in relationships that are abusive, or just plain going to stress them out because he's never going to be responsible, and he'll probably dump you for the next girl that comes along... Why do we need so desperately to be loved???

I've been reading about the 5 Love Languages, and I think it gives a pretty good reason... We all need to have a full "love tank" Cars run on Gas tanks... Humans live on Love tanks... However... no matter how much I try to use any of the 5 Love Languages to continue to fill their love tanks... it doesn't seem to work. They need more love than what I can give them. and so it leads me back to the question... Why do girls so desperately need a man in their lives that they settle... I don' tthink I'll ever know the answer to that... But while I'm sitting back thinking about it... I want to say...

Girls. don't settle for anything less than a man that will make you grow. Spiritually, Mentally, Responsibly... Make sure he treats you as a Princess that he wants to help run the world. I'm not saying He should be the servant and you should run the world. But He needs to encourage you to go where ever you want to go. Shoot for the Moon... Find someone that will stand beside you, someone you can stand beside. Someone that would do anything for you. Those guys exsist. They are just waiting for you to notice them... Or they're stuck in your friend zone and trying to find a way out. Don't settle for Good. Great is out there. Don't settle for a boy... Settle for a Man that will make every dream come true.

Boys... Be the man that Treats his girl like a princess. If your stuck in the friend zone... Talk to her. Give her some time to realize you don't want to be there anymore. things could get awkward for a time... but either they'll get better, or you'll get over it. Figure out her love language and fill her love tank. It's not that hard if you can figure it out. Don't be a boy that she has to settle for... be a Man that anyone would be proud to be with.

Everyone... There's more to life then looking for love. Find yourself. Find God. Find your direction. Wait for Love. It won't go anywhere... It's just waiting for you to figure out the rest of your life first. Have patience...