Hey guys, this morning's blog, though it may sounds a bit strange, was inspired by a dream I had... Yes I do realize that just because it's a dream does not make it reality. But I also realize that things like this happen every day, the attitude is the same and I feel I need to say something about it.

Rape and Abuse are serious things my friend. I've had a friend tell me she was being raped by her fiance, but she didn't know if it really was rape or not. Surprise guys... It is. I see girls get themselves into relationships where I know without a doubt they are either now being Abused, or they will be when he thinks he can afford to let down his guard. My grandparents foster, and they had a girl that had been gang raped @ 14, she doesn't know which of the gang is the father of her little girl. And in my dream I discovered someone was being either raped or abused as well as stolen from because she didn't know what to do about it.

In my dream a dear friend of mine was staying with a family during the summer. The man of the house raped or abused her (she was just about to confirm which accusation when I woke up). He stole her money under the pretext that he needed it and she was fine with it. When I talked to this girl she finally admitted something had happened, but with a it's not a big deal attitude. She had talked to a friend that told her just don't make a big deal of it. Just let it slide.

Anyone reading this please take this seriously. Rape and Abuse happen every day, everywhere and to many people. It is able to continue because the abused feels bad for the abuser, people get emotionally involved, think they can help the abuser themselves, don't want to be looked at differently, or are under the illusion that it's not a big deal. Some people reading this... maybe you've been abused, hit a time or 2, been merely mentally abused... you might be thinking to yourself as you read this... If it happens that often then me being hit a couple times really isn't that big a deal... IT IS A BIG DEAL!!!

It's a memory your never going to forget. It's something you will have to live with. But it's not something you have to live around. Tell someone. You've got people that care about you. Maybe you've shunned the world because you love the abuser so very much and they became #1... now they're the only one around... Look back, there's enough people you shunned who probably finally sat back because they knew the only way you'd listen was for you to figure it out yourself. Move away. You might never forget what they've done, but that doesn't mean you need to be around it anymore. Maybe you've been abused/raped by someone you don't know... someone you saw on the street, TELL SOMEONE!!! if you don't say something there's going to be someone running around on the street waiting for another victim. If you don't know what they looked like, what they smelt like... At least you can warn them, where it took place. Get the warning out so they can try to figure out for the next time... Anything can help.

DON'T LET ANYONE TELL YOU IT'S NO BIG DEAL!!! If you tell someone and they say "yeah, that happens all the time it's no big deal." "I think you're dreaming, that person wouldn't do that." "You're being dramatic." GO FIND SOMEONE ELSE!!! Worst case scenario... go talk to a councillor. they are obligated to say something (ok I don't know the degree of their obligation), either they can help you work through the experience so that you don't have to deal with the pain being every part of every day. Yes it will still be there, but it doesn't have to tear you apart. Don't let yourself continue to be around.

Please don't think it's not a big deal, Please don't let other's convince you that it's not a big deal. If you don't have it in you to tell someone, at least get yourself away from the situation. You may have the memories, but you don't have to let it tear you apart. Get the help you need, Don't in any way think it is your fault.